Today we had a couple over for dinner who's own kids are grown and have kids of their own. They just moved here from Arkansas and they are super nice people. Needless to say we had chicken noodle soup for dinner which I believe is a very simple and easy meal. We ate watermelon with it and since I took dinner to family in our ward who just had a baby we had cinnamon rolls after dinner. Well when they 1st walked in she asked who played the piano, which I told her I do. Well I don't play amazing but I play in Relief Society. Then she started eating and she said and you make your own noodles? I'm like yes. Then I told her how Anna was going to Kindergarten and how most of the kids in her class have had some school before now so they don't understand her excitement. So she said wow you play the piano, you cook, you home school, your a massage therapist now this is a very blessed woman you got right here. Talking to Zach, "You are one lucky man you better hold onto this one." It kinda made my day to say the least. Not very many people comment about any of the day to day things that I do in my life. No one acknowledges the things I do on a daily basis for our family. It helped me realize that I am doing a good job and that I am doing what the Lord wants me to do. It also helped me realize that I do have lots of skills and people really do look up to me.
Lately all I've been focused on is that I've gained a lot more weight since having kids than I would like and it seems like that is all people judge me by. They think I'm a lazy Mother who can't care for her kids because I'm this stay at home Mom who does absolutely nothing but put my kids in front of the TV, when that is just not true. Sure they get to watch a few shows most days but that is about it. Thank you Heavenly Father for recognizing that I needed that special angel in my home to tell me that I'm doing a good job and that I should be proud of myself. This world doesn't judge success base off what happens at home, they only base it off of worldly things like how much money you make, how big your house is, what kind of car you drive that kind of stuff. When in reality those things really won't save us in the end. We don't even get to take them with us. I am very blessed and I just need to be proud of myself and move on. If I do the very best I can everything else will work out.
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Christy I'm sad that you have had enough experience with judgements like this to consider a large group of people feel the same. It's like once it's brought up, it's burned into our psyche - even if it's completely untrue or unjustified. Anyone who actually knows you, knows you do the best for your children even when it makes you uncomfortable. I suppose your example makes people defensive and insecure about their choices because they know deep down they could have been better, and they get jealous. It's a backwards world we live in, so don't let people get you down. I, for one, think you are a great mom- and a great person in general. You make informed decisions and don't just go with what everyone else is doing and that is so refreshing, and INTELLIGENT. You are giving your girls a wonderful gift as they watch you stand apart form the crowd. That picture of Kali breastfeeding her doll is a prime example of that. You get a "good mom" award in my book- and take it from me- I am AWFUL about judging people based on their parenting skills. You and zach are wonderful people and are raising wonderful children.
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