It's been a long while since I posted anything about Kali. I know some of you may be wondering how my sweet Kali is doing with her incontinence issue. Kali has been through so much with trying to figure out why she has a hard time keeping her pants dry. First tonsils removed (not the only reason but a reason), urologist, diabetic testing, thyroid testing, MRI, a test to show what her bladder does called urodynamics, chiropractic care, and the last thing we did was take her to a pelvic floor physical therapist. Honestly every doctor we talk to says I'm so surprised this isn't helping. The urologist put us on miralax daily and other laxatives regularly cause she thought that would help. Well it didn't. Then we did chiropractic care and all 3 of the different chiropractors I've talked to over the last few years are all so surprised it hasn't helped her. Then because it wasn't helping the chiropractor told us to get bloodwork done for thyroid and diabetic testing. Well that wasn't it so then she referred us to a pelvic floor physical therapist. She also suggested we get tested for any food allergies but we haven't done that yet because we are moving and can't fit that in right now. Honestly I think the pelvic floor physical therapist has been truly a blessing. Which honestly I would have NEVER gone to see her if the chiropractor wouldn't have suggested it. The pelvic floor therapist is trying to get her to strengthen those muscles. I hope one day we can have a dry day. Someday maybe.
So is she doing any better. Well some days I think maybe but most of the time I just think no she's not. She still pees her pants every single day. I still constantly worry about her. A friend invited her over and I have so much anxiety about her going to friends house's that it's so hard. I just worry that she's going to have a accident and then the friend's Parents are never going to want her to come play again. Seriously guys it's so exhausting. I just want my daughter to keep her pants dry. Most kids struggle for a few weeks, maybe a few months and then they are fine. My kid has been struggling for YEARS and I don't see any end in sight. It feel so defeating. Everywhere we go I have to make her go to the bathroom, which she fights, and often times she pees not to long after she gone to the bathroom. If it was like a normal kids pee it would probably be different as well but her pee stinks bad! It's so bad!
It can be really hard to separate how I feel about her peeing her pants and how I feel about her. You see, I'm really working on this. I'm trying the best I can to help her recognize that she is special that she is a child of God. I hope that she knows I love her even if I struggle so much with all she goes through. I also am trying to not make her problem my own. As Mom's we often want to make our kids problem ours so we can help them fix it but in all reality they truly have to do it on their own. Kali is just going to have to learn all by herself how to deal with this issue. I truly can't fix the problem for her.
